It’s almost “Love Day” the day that couples or want-to-be couples proclaim their love for each other. Yes, Valentine’s Day is that one day that the public displays of affection are over the top, huge bouquets of roses and flowers are purchased and a ridiculous amount of chocolate is given as the ultimate sign of love. It’s also the day that those whom are single loathe because it reminds them that they do not have a significant other. I get it, I use to be the only single person in my group of friends and I use to hate Valentine’s Day. I still don’t truly embrace it but I can understand it from the perspective of showing love and appreciation for others.
If you have a life partner that is loving, supportive, and challenges you to grow personally and professionally, great for you, to be your best self you need someone who builds you up. If you don’t have someone like that, don’t worry, your time will come, in the meantime, you have to make sure you are ready, physically, mentally, and spiritually to meet the right person and begin your journey on being in a meaningful relationship. Whether you are in a relationship or not, there is one thing that you probably need to do more of…give yourself more self-love. You probably need to care for yourself more, appreciate your amazing qualities, and recognize your unique gifts.
What is self-love? Self-love is the appreciation of oneself that grows from actions that support your physical, mental, and spiritual growth. It is about caring for oneself and demonstrating appreciation for being oneself and how they show up in the world. Self-love means that you are choosing happiness, care, and well-being and commit to being kind to yourself.
Here are five ways that you can inject a little self-love into your life every day:
- Wake up with a morning ritual. How you start your day is one of the most important keys to unlock more happiness and success, reduce stress, achieve your goals and create more self-love. People who have a high degree of confidence and self-love often begin their day with some form of the 3 M’s, meaning, meditation and mantra. Begin each morning with meaning: giving thanks for 3 things you are grateful for, meditation: doing a quick 3-5 minute meditation with deep breathing and sitting in silence, and mantra: a powerful, positive statement that you say to yourself to fire you up.
- Exercise regularly. Many people think exercise and being active is about “looking good”, however, it is also about “feeling good” and of course the countless health benefits. When you exercise you release endorphins that release positive, happy feelings. You feel great and you develop more confidence, better health, and more energy. Aim to exercise at least 3 times per week; it is the ultimate demonstration of proving your love for yourself to yourself.
- Set boundaries. Learn to say no to work, relationships, love, or activities that take your energy, are harmful to your mental, physical or emotional well-being. You are valuable, you matter; tell yourself that by choosing to say no to things that bring you down, you are saying yes to putting yourself first. Know your worth and do not allow anyone or anything to get in the way of you being your best self.
- Forgive yourself. We can be our harshest critics. Mistakes and missteps are a part of life; it is a part of growing and learning. You are human, accept it, own it and understand that you are not perfect, learn to be less harsh and more loving towards yourself. Failures are lessons that prepare you for success in your relationships, career, and life.
- Develop a life support network. Surround yourself with people that lift you up and build you up. Don’t spend time with people that are negative, instead spend time with people that challenge you with the conversation, support you in challenging times and see the beauty in you. When you surround yourself with people that light you up you see more of the beauty in yourself and appreciate your contributions to your relationships.
- Find your happy place. Think of physical places or spaces where you are happiest, maybe its a bookstore or library, the gym, walking in the park, reading, or spending time with your kids, wherever it is; go there often. Schedule time in your day and week to get to your happy place, make it a priority in your life and don’t allow anything to get in the way of you getting there. It is important to visit your happy place to reflect, recharge, and rest.
Valentine’s Day Fun Facts:
Approximately 150 million Valentine’s Day cards are exchanged annually, making Valentine’s Day the second most popular card-sending holiday after Christmas.
In addition to the U.S., Valentine’s Day is celebrated in Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, France, Australia, Denmark, Italy and Japan.
Research reveals that more than half of the U.S. population celebrates Valentine’s Day by purchasing a greeting card. (Source: Hallmark research)
The estimated U.S. median ages at first marriage for women and men are 25.9 and 27.6 respectively, in 2008. The age for women rose 4.2 years in the last three decades. The age for men at first marriage is up 3.6 years.
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